To many, the Christian life is one of discovering the principles that govern each aspect of existence and following them to their conclusion, thus reaping the benefits of adherence to the designer’s plan. This is obviously better than neglecting the precepts of God and blindly living with no guide. But there is an even higher form of existence. It is living by faith, developing a vital relationship with God himself and enjoying his presence and personality. Promises require faith. You can’t work a promise. It is not a formula. It can be believed or refused, but it cannot be used as a tool and then set aside until it’s needed again. To believe a promise, you must get to know the One who makes the promise. Then you must live in patience and trust and relationship while that promise shapes your life.
Dudley Hall
Grace Works, Vine Books, 1992, 129-30.
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I could not have said it any better,we have to look at it as a family thing.